Effective communication: a bridge of the heart

Communication is the cornerstone of the relationship between the sexes and the bridge connecting two hearts. However, effective communication is not easy. It requires both parties to have the ability to listen, express and understand.

n many relationships, communication is often not smooth. For example, one party may encounter setbacks at work and return home exhausted. When he confides in the other party, the response he gets is perfunctory or incomprehensible. This is because the listener does not really feel the emotions of the confidant with his heart, but only listens superficially without going deep into the other party’s inner world. Real listening is to stop what you are doing, look at the other person’s eyes attentively, and give the other person full attention and respect. Use eyes, nods, etc. to show that you are listening carefully, and be able to respond in time, such as “Well, I can understand how you feel now” and “Then, you continue to talk”, so that the other party feels valued.

Expression is also a crucial link in communication. Many times, we have rich emotions and ideas in our hearts, but we cannot accurately convey them to the other party. This may be because we use vague or accusatory words. For example, when one party is dissatisfied with the other party, saying “you are always like this” is a general expression that not only fails to let the other party know the problem clearly, but also easily triggers the other party’s disgust and resistance. On the contrary, if the problem can be pointed out specifically, such as “you didn’t go home on time last night, and didn’t call me, I was very worried, and I felt that I was not valued by you”, such an expression can make the other party understand the impact of their behavior on the other party, which is more conducive to solving the problem.

In addition to listening and expressing, understanding is the core of communication. Everyone has different growth backgrounds, personality traits and values. These differences will cause us to have different views and feelings about the same thing. In a relationship between the sexes, we must learn to respect these differences and try to understand the problem from the other party’s perspective. For example, when facing differences in consumption concepts, one party may be more frugal and pay attention to savings, while the other party may be more inclined to enjoy the present and willing to spend money to buy a high-quality life experience. If the two parties cannot understand each other’s ideas, it is easy to have conflicts and quarrels because of some consumption behaviors. At this time, both parties should sit down and communicate frankly about the reasons for the formation of their consumption concepts and their plans for future life, and find a balance point that both parties can accept through mutual understanding.